Read Along With Me #2: The Space Between Us by Thrity Umrigar Chapters 22 – END

4 Dec

Read Along 2

Here is the final installment of my Second Read Along! I’m sad it’s over, but I’ve really enjoyed the ride. The book this time was ‘The Space Between Us’ by Thrity Umrigar which was very different from our last choice, but a great book for discussion. You can look at all of our posts on the hub page. I hope to have a new one start in January so keep on eye here if you think this is something you’d like to do in the future. Here we go!

Question from AshleeIn chapter 24, Sera comments that women live for so much more than themselves and men can take more risks because they always have suicide as an option. This comment caught me off guard. How did you ladies take this?

I didn’t like this comment and at the same time understood it. Women are hardwired to be caretakers; we want to help stray puppies and play with orphans. These feelings are only magnified for our families, especially children. Women live for their children and while many men do as well, it’s not as natural for some of them. I think Sera’s point is that a man is more likely to see suicide as an option because he doesn’t see as much duty to those around him whereas a woman wouldn’t consider it because she would be scared of what would happen to her family if she weren’t around.

 

Question from Claudia“Will Serabai ever be able to forget those words, to bury them under the protective layers of forgetfulness and denial?” More secrets! I cannot help but wonder what Sera will do now that she has discovered the truth behind Viraf’s cruel undertaking on Maya. What do you think is the “right” thing to do? As a mother, friend, sister, daughter, would you open up about the truth on something as unsettling as this?

I’m still wondering if Sera believed Bhima’s story about Viraf. I’d like to think she completely believed her and knows that her son-in-law is a sorry excuse for a man. I’d like to think she knows Bhima better than anyone else and knows that she’d never lie or steal. However, I’m afraid that she’s been conditioned by those around her to distrust her friendship. her neighbors and friends have been telling her that she can’t trust Bhima because, in the end, she can turn on Sera, stealing and killing if she needs to. I think it’s easier for Sera to believe Viraf. It fits in more with her friend’s ideal and keeps her family together. By simply rejecting the words of her servant, she doesn’t disgrace her son-in-law and saves her daughter from loads of pain. I think this will always haunt Sera but it’s something she’ll have to live with.

 

What a wonderful book! I won’t write a full summary of it because I think it’s been discussed enough here, but I’m so glad I got to read this title with these two wonderful ladies. I’ll be announcing the next read-along after my semester ends next week. I’m not really able to think of anything else until then.

Until next time, write on.

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2 Responses to “Read Along With Me #2: The Space Between Us by Thrity Umrigar Chapters 22 – END”

  1. Claudia {SparrowHawk} December 8, 2014 at 3:27 PM #

    “Women live for their children and while many men do as well, it’s not as natural for some of them.”

    – I feel we especially see this in our very own society, and not just in India. . .hmm, actually, it’s an issue that weighs heavy in every culture. Your answer was perfect Sam.

    “. . .whereas a woman wouldn’t consider it because she would be scared of what would happen to her family if she weren’t around.”

    – I can’t even begin to express how these very words ring true to my life. It’s a fear I often have to struggle with, and one I often pray against.

    “. . .she’s been conditioned by those around her to distrust her friendship.”

    – Those were my exact thoughts during the confrontation, and I kept holding my breath, hoping that Sera would stand up in Bhima’s defense, but then again, I can see how she would want to save Dinaz from a burden of sorrow.

    Will miss our discussions, but look forward to the next read along!

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    • Sam December 8, 2014 at 4:51 PM #

      I wondered if this passage would ring more true with you because you are a mother. I really look forward to exploring a new book together! This has been such a joy.

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