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WWW Wednesday, 31-January-2018

31 Jan

Welcome to WWW Wednesday! This meme was formerly hosted by MizB at A Daily Rhythm and revived here on Taking on a World of Words. Just answer the three questions below and leave a link to your post in the comments for others to look at. No blog? No problem! Just leave a comment with your responses. Please, take some time to visit the other participants and see what others are reading. So, let’s get to it!IMG_1384-0

The Three Ws are:

What are you currently reading?
What did you recently finish reading?
What do you think you’ll read next?

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Currently reading: I was able to make some good progress on A Widow for One Year by John Irving. I had a lot of meetings to drive to last week so I got through three disks! I’m still just over halfway through this book but I’m feeling good about finishing it before the library makes me bring it in to prove I didn’t lose it.
I made steady progress in Harry Potter y las Reliquias de la Muerte by J.K. Rowling. I’ve been training hard and some nights I go to bed without reading so I know I could have read more, but I’m still happy with what I’ve gotten through.
Sad news that the audiobook I have access to for The Poe Shadow was abridged! I decided to pass it up in favor of the full novel sometime in the future. Instead, I started listening to My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante. A very good friend of mine said a literature professor she had during her MFA said this was her favorite novel of all time and I’ve had it on my shelf for years. I’m glad I’m finally getting to it.
I needed a new ebook and the next on my list is one I’m very excited about: The Circle by Dave Eggers! I really wanted to read this one a while ago and never got around to it. I’ve just started but I’m very excited.

Recently finished: No surprise that I finished The Elements of Style by William Strunk Jr. and E.B. White. It was a quick audiobook though I wish I’d had a different narrator for my experience. I posted my review yesterday if you want to read all my thoughts. I gave it 4 out of 5 Stars.
I also finished The Color Purple by Alice Walker which was a pleasant surprise. I was also glad to have a happy(er) ending. I should have my review of that up tomorrow and a movie review up next week. I love when there’s a movie!

I posted my review on How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie on Monday if you want to check that one out. I gave it 3 out of 5 Stars.

Reading Next: I’ll be out-of-town for my next book club meeting so I don’t have any pressure there to put aside Harry for another book. If I had to guess, I’d say I’ll need a CD Audiobook next and I’ll turn to Son of a Witch by Gregory Maguire. I read Wicked when I was in high school and I’ll have to find a refresher on what happened so I can continue with the next book in the series!


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Book Review: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie (3/5)

29 Jan

I found a copy of this book at a library book sale that is from 1964! I lent it to a friend and the pages started falling out of the binding because the glue is so old! He got it back to me with all the pages held between the covers but I decided I was better off listening to this book rather than praying I wasn’t reading it on a windy day that would take my pages away.

Cover image via Goodreads

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Summary from Amazon

Dale Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives. One of the most groundbreaking and timeless bestsellers of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People will teach you:

-Six ways to make people like you

-Twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking

-Nine ways to change people without arousing resentment

And much more! Achieve your maximum potential—a must-read for the twenty-first century with more than 15 million copies sold!

I had to use the Amazon summary because my Goodreads summary was in Spanish. Is anyone else having this problem?

I really liked this book. It wasn’t the engaging reading I usually have while running, but the short stories did help keep me engaged. They were really good at demonstrating how someone could use the principles in real life. I did feel they were a bit dated, however. The version I listened to was the 1998 publication and I think that it would have felt dated even then. A lot of the advice seems like common sense, but implementing them when you’re in a tough situation isn’t common sense. It would take work to make sure your mind switched to these techniques in throes of anger or frustration.

I can see why this is such a popular book. When I think of my close friends and people at work I want to deal with, I think they fit many of the characteristics in this book. They can win someone over with ease. They’re friendly. They smile, take a genuine interest in something I’m interested in, and they aren’t bossy when they need me to do something.

Dale Carnegie
Image via Biography

I think winning someone to my way of thinking was my favorite section. I’m one who tends to argue when someone doesn’t agree with me. I am quick to anger and I can get to shouting very fast. Carnegie’s advice to get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately is great and I like the idea of it. I’ll try to start doing this one when I have to get my husband to understand cleaning the bathroom is in his best interest.

I thought the first section on how to get people to like you was a little basic and set a lower standard for the rest of the book. The advice here, to smile, to listen, to make the other person feel important, feel like things you do to a boss you don’t actually like, not with a real friend. A friendship in this style would be very one-sided and might not be good for the person following Carnegie’s advice.

My audiobook was narrated by Andrew Macmillian. I felt he did a fair job. His accent reminded me of James Stewart in It’s a Wonderful Life. By that, I mean it sounded ‘old time-y American.’ I’m not sure if Macmillian was going for this, as the original publication date of this book was the 1930s, or if he really speaks like that. As the examples in the book felt dated, the accent didn’t seem out-of-place.

I’m sure we’ve all run across someone, either personally or at work, that was a chore to deal with. This book seems to be written for that person, not for the Average Joe. I know someone people who could really use this advice, but on the whole, most people I know already take some or all of this to heart and are practicing at least some of Carnegie’s lessons unintentionally. It would be a really good backhanded Christmas present for that aunt that no one likes!

Writer’s Takeaway: Carnegie did a good job of illustrating his point with good examples. He drew from a wide variety of people to get good stories to illustrate each example. I’m glad these weren’t as one-sided as I thought they would be (toward dominant men in business). Though I’m not sure how much of that was edited in or included in the original.

I liked this book but didn’t find it as life-changing as I thought I would. Three out of Five Stars.

This book fulfilled the 1920-1939 time period of the When Are You Reading? Challenge.

Until next time, write on.

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WWW Wednesday, 24-January-2018

24 Jan

Welcome to WWW Wednesday! This meme was formerly hosted by MizB at A Daily Rhythm and revived here on Taking on a World of Words. Just answer the three questions below and leave a link to your post in the comments for others to look at. No blog? No problem! Just leave a comment with your responses. Please, take some time to visit the other participants and see what others are reading. So, let’s get to it!IMG_1384-0

The Three Ws are:

What are you currently reading?
What did you recently finish reading?
What do you think you’ll read next?

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Currently reading: Still making steady progress with The Color Purple by Alice Walker. Things have finally started to turn around for Celie and I can see a possible happy ending for her! I hope it lasts.
I have a few drives this week that will give me some time to enjoy. A Widow for One Year by John Irving. I made some decent progress this week but nothing to be too proud of. I hope to keep pecking away at this one for a while. Maybe the news will be less depressing when I finish and I can go back to that while I drive.
I slowed down a bit with Harry Potter y las Reliquias de la Muerte by J.K. Rowling this week because I’ve been so tired! I’m training hard now for my first swim meet in ten years and I’m not getting as much sleep as I’d like. It’s what I get for deciding to swim again.
I started  The Elements of Style by William Strunk Jr. and E.B. White and I’ll probably finish it really soon. It’s only a 90-minute audiobook! The narrator is really terrible and I have to concentrate a lot as he reads out the sentences and words to hear where the commas fall. This one might have been easier to read.

Recently finished: I got through How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie like I suspected. There was so solid advice in here and I hope I can retain some of it. I’m trying it out on a co-worker of mine that I find frustrating to deal with. We’ll see if I get anywhere!

I posted my review of Please Look After Mom by Kyung-Sook Shin on Monday. Please check it out! My book club meets next week to discuss it.

Reading Next: It’s hard to guess. The next book I’ll finish will be The Elements of Style so I’ll need an audiobook for my phone. Next up will probably be The Poe Shadow by Matthew Pearl. I’ve wanted to read this since I found out about it after enjoying Pearl’s other book, The Dante Club. I’ll see if this one stands up to his first.


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Until next time, write on.

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WWW Wednesday, 17-January-2018

17 Jan

Welcome to WWW Wednesday! This meme was formerly hosted by MizB at A Daily Rhythm and revived here on Taking on a World of Words. Just answer the three questions below and leave a link to your post in the comments for others to look at. No blog? No problem! Just leave a comment with your responses. Please, take some time to visit the other participants and see what others are reading. So, let’s get to it!IMG_1384-0

The Three Ws are:

What are you currently reading?
What did you recently finish reading?
What do you think you’ll read next?

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Currently reading: I’m still moving forward slowly with The Color Purple by Alice Walker. I think I can finish this in the next month but that’s going to depend on having no lunch meetings for a while. We’ll see if that ends up happening!
I realized I’m going to have to renew A Widow for One Year by John Irving a couple of times! I’ve already renewed it once and I’m only on the fourth disk! This is a long one and I don’t drive a lot so I plan to be listening to it for a while.
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie on audio will be the next book I finish. I’m making decent progress on it and I got about an hour in with it at the gym yesterday. Winning!
I know Harry Potter y las Reliquias de la Muerte by J.K. Rowling is going to be a slow go. I made it about five chapters in reading during my vacation and it felt like a big dent but nothing’s that great when a book is 638 pages! I’m about 1/10 done.

Recently finished: Nothing! I hope to have at least one here next week. My review of The Marriage Plot by Jeffrey Eugenides went up on Monday so please check that out.

Reading Next: I’ll need a new phone audiobook next and the next on the list is the short wonder of The Elements of Style by William Strunk Jr. and E.B. White. I’ve never read this one and there’s a quick audiobook available of it so I’ll give that a listen and hopefully absorb something useful.


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WWW Wednesday, 10-January-2018

10 Jan

Welcome to WWW Wednesday! This meme was formerly hosted by MizB at A Daily Rhythm and revived here on Taking on a World of Words. Just answer the three questions below and leave a link to your post in the comments for others to look at. No blog? No problem! Just leave a comment with your responses. Please, take some time to visit the other participants and see what others are reading. So, let’s get to it!IMG_1384-0

The Three Ws are:

What are you currently reading?
What did you recently finish reading?
What do you think you’ll read next?

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Currently reading: As expected, I made small progress with The Color Purple by Alice Walker. Work has picked up a bit and my lunches are being encroached on bit by bit while things even out after the new year. Maybe a week or so until I get things back to normal.
Steady progress with A Widow for One Year by John Irving as well. I’m enjoying the story and it’s rather typical of Irving. That’s a mixed bag because I know I’m going to like it but I’m not surprised at the same time.
I’ve started How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie on audio. This is actually a really good one for audio because it’s easy to tune in and out and start and stop and still learn from it. There are a lot of stories and vignettes so there’s a lack of a consistent plotline and the main points are reiterated often. When I have to concentrate on running not to slip or freeze, it’s nice to be able to tune out when needed.
I just started Harry Potter y las Reliquias de la Muerte by J.K. Rowling as well. This will mark my second full re-read of the series and all in Spanish. I’ve been working on this for years so I’m really excited to be on the last book!

Recently finished: I’ve just finished Please Look After Mom by Kyung-Sook Shin and I’m still processing it. I liked the book until the final chapter when I slowed down reading it a lot because I felt disappointed. It was a sad story to be sure. I look forward to talking to my book club about it.

Reading Next: Right now, I have no plans and that’s probably for the best. I’m not near finishing most of my reads and I don’t want to consider what’s going to change in the next few days. I’ll see what I’m in the mood for when the time comes


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WWW Wednesday, 3-January-2018

3 Jan

Welcome to WWW Wednesday! This meme was formerly hosted by MizB at A Daily Rhythm and revived here on Taking on a World of Words. Just answer the three questions below and leave a link to your post in the comments for others to look at. No blog? No problem! Just leave a comment with your responses. Please, take some time to visit the other participants and see what others are reading. So, let’s get to it!IMG_1384-0

The Three Ws are:

What are you currently reading?
What did you recently finish reading?
What do you think you’ll read next?

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Currently reading: There wasn’t much movement on The Color Purple by Alice Walker. I didn’t work a lot last week so I didn’t have work lunchtime to read. I’m hoping this picks back up now that work has started again.
It’s a slow go with A Widow for One Year by John Irving but I knew it would be. I don’t drive a lot so having one book dedicated to driving time will be a book I don’t finish quickly. I’m only on the second disk and I’m having some trouble remembering where I left off before the holidays.
I’m over half way through Please Look After Mom by Kyung-Sook Shin and really enjoying it. I thought the second person narration was going to throw me off a lot when I started but I got used to it very fast and I’m liking it a lot now.

Recently finished: I finished one last night and had to update this post right away so I could tell you all! I got through The Marriage Plot by Jeffrey Eugenides thanks to cooking before my husband got home, haha. I finished it just before dinner was done and I’m so proud of myself for timing it just perfect. The review might not be up for a bit, I have a lot of posts I want to get up!
I did manage to write a review of The Professor and the Madman by Simon Winchester which was posted yesterday. Go check it out! I gave the book 3 out of 5 Stars. I liked it enough, but there were some slow bits. I’ve shared my full thoughts in the post.

Reading Next: I have Harry Potter y las Reliquias de la Muerte by J.K. Rowling ready to go as soon as I finish Mom. I’m hoping that will be this weekend at the latest.
I’ll be starting a new audiobook this morning but depending on what time zone you’re in, you might see this before I start it! My next audioboook will be How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. I found a beautiful old copy of this book at a used book sale and brought it home. It wasn’t a priority so I lent it to a friend who found out the hard way that the glue was drying out and the pages were coming out! I figured it was better to audiobook this one now that I’m ready to read it.


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